(This the 16th essay in the series of many in which I share my experience of reading Lester Levenson and Hale Dwoskin’s Happiness Is Free: And It’s Easier Than You Think, Books 1 through 5, The Greatest Secret Edition. Sedona Press. Kindle Edition.)
Yes, but you have to see it as nothing but you, then you see the truth of it.
Everything is you. All your creations, perceptions, thoughts — they are never about other people. There are no others. But this is not solipsism. We are not saying we are the only mind, we are saying that we are all one thing, one awareness.
When you allow or welcome a feeling, you are opening your consciousness, and this enables the feeling to drop away all by itself like clouds passing in the sky or smoke passing up an open chimney flue.
A feeling can be seen as the surface tension on a bubble. The feeling is where the containment is the force outwards is the feeling and the force on the opposite side is the resistance to it. The higher the tension between the two, the more real the feeling appears to be.
Real, divine love, however, is a constant, persistent acceptance of all beings in the universe — fully, wholly, totally — as the other beings are, and loving them because they are the way they are.
Here, all energy is free because there is nothing to defend and nothing to attack. No one needs to be a particular way to shine a positive light back on you and no one needs to be your enemy. What is an enemy if it’s not an attempt to say to the world ‘I am not that’.
If we as a nation were to practice this, we could make every enemy of ours completely impotent, just by loving them.
On a universal level this sounds ridiculous. But — as always, take it for checking — think of an enemy, or just someone or something that is opposing you, open your arms to them and see if you can find even the tiniest part if you that can say ‘yes’ to how they are.
We don’t need to go around bestowing our love on people with those incredible three words of ‘I love you’, not at all, what we are doing here is an act of opening and allowing inside us — could I allow this person to be as this person is for just a fraction of a second. In my experience, once you that — step by step and as best you can — you fnd that your opponent loses the power to disturb you. This is no new age BS, it’s the foundation of Akido and many other martial arts.
Real love itself is something we can’t turn on and off. Either we have it or we don’t have it, and with it, it’s impossible to love one person and hate another. To the degree that we hate anyone, to that degree we do not love the others. Our love is no greater than our hatred is for any one person.
See how true this has to be? Love, love and you’ll be happy, healthy and prosperous.
The real love is the love we feel for others. It is determined by how much we give ourselves to others.
This is a bit of a headf**k, but what has happened every time I have tried not to give? Every time that I have consciously held back? It’s been an effort and one that leads to losing one way or another.
When you understand people, you see that they are doing right in their own eyes. When you understand, you allow, you accept. If you understand, you love.
You can also see your own past or anything else in this light. Whatever my fuck up turned out to be, at the time I thought it was a good idea. I thought I was doing something good. That was where I was at, nothing more and nothing less.
Happiness is equal to one’s capacity to love.
This has been my experience. I was unhappy when I was rich because back then, I was dissatisfied, bored and empty. I was very happy about being rich though. I was equally dissatified when I was poor but didn’t have wealth as a consolation. Rich/poor, it’s irrelevant. You’re not creating anything. It doesn’t matter how much you have or who you are, if you’re hating you’re seeing separation and that means you’re hurting. In my upbringing, hate was good and powerful and he who hates, wins.
But it can be much more subtle. Giving others power over you is another form of hate.
There is always either love or the lack of it. When one is not loving, one is doing the opposite.
Is this true? Isn’t there sometimes just nothing?
If you will look at it from your very own center, the words love, acceptance, identification, understanding, communication, Truth, God, and Self are all the same.
I do see this as true. There are really any things that are alone and separate.
Love is effortless, whereas hate requires much effort. Apply love and every problem resolves.
Apply these two principles and you don’t need any more self-help or anything else. Most of the improve-yourself genre is the opposite of this and tries to motivate by hate and dissatisfaction. This can appear to be effective. You’ll get excited while reading the book or on the workshop. But once the effect of that wears off you’ll be back to square one.
Love equals happiness. When we are not happy, we are not loving.
If you are unhappy you are hating something. What is it?
Love will not only give all the power in the universe, it will give all the joy and all the knowledge too.
Feeling powerless is a state of non-loving.
Hating is the biggest power give away. If you hate somebody, where is your attention? On the object of your hatred. If they have your attention, they have power over you. ‘Hatred’ is a strong word, but the same applies if you are irritated by someone or something. All this opposition and self-righteousness can look and feel like power but it isn’t. Real power is love, it’s what you’re for, not what you are against. Then its infinite.
Desperation is not an aphrodisiac. Love comes from love and that is why you always need to be the first to love. If you don’t think you can do that — or you don’t want to do it because you believe you don’t have enough love in you — you are in your limitation, and you have a wonderful opportunity to release.
The best way to increase our capacity to love is through understanding ourselves.
There has to be a limit to this though? If I spend all my time understanding myself, doesn’t that mean that I am just into myself and trying to get something? Boring, boring self. The real self, awareness is never boring, it’s endless and endlessly fascinating. As Rupert Spira says, bordeom means you’ve latched onto an object that isn’t alive for you.
Grant everyone in the family their own Beingness, then apply it to friends, then strangers, then to everyone. The more we practice love, the more we love; the more we love, the more we can practice love.
So Christmas is a chance for maximum freedom. Can I do it? This more important than anything else. Much more than anything I could do with writing or reading or any other production Release, release, release until you can’t and then stop.
The only method of receiving love is to give love, because what we give out must come back.
If you live by this, there cannot be a problem and this is why releasing must be constant.
The easiest thing to do in the universe is to love everyone.
So just as an example of this and how deeply releasing can go -So far this morning I have disliked S for emailing me, and L’s group for virtue signalling and pretending that they are not virtue signalling. Before that I dreaded getting a job and I disliked U for existing. Then I looked at the WhatsApp group and decided that they are all desperate. And this is what is happens when the mind, with its old habits, runs riot.
It’s very far from free. Yet I still believe that if something would be different, if something or somebody in the outside world would change, then I would … not think these thoughts any more? That is simply not true. As I said many times before, whatever you resist now you’ll still be resisting when you have done X and got Y. It’s got nothing to do with S, L or U. Nothing.
After that I started on at myself for not contributing enough. Even my hedonistic drunk friends contribute and I don’t. What a disaster I am. And on and on the mind goes, boring me senseless in its endless recycling of the same dull thoughts.
There is nothing to get too attached to, nothing to be figured out. It’s a current in the sea, a river meeting an ocean and without restriction, this mental activity will die away. Wither it through lack of attention. Don’t feed it with its favourite way to begin a sentence ‘I should …’. It doesn’t even mean anything, it is all stuff coming up into consciousness.
Love is an absolutely necessary ingredient on the path. If we ever expect to get full realization, we must increase our love until it is complete.
It can be so easily solved with ‘no’.
You can find the introduction to this essay series here: Happiness is Free: And It’s Easier Than You Think
I am an experienced facilitator in the Sedona Method — which is based on Lester’s teachings and by far the easiest and fastest route to discover for yourself the freedom, happiness and peace he describes in this book.